To tattle or not to tattle. Hmmmm I need some advice ladies and gentlemen. I said I wasn't going to blog but well I lied. We are going through a terrible tattling stage with number 1 and number 2. I have always had the rule "if it doesn't include blood or bodily harm you don't need to tell me. Use your voice and tell the other person to stop, give it back, quit spitting, etc."
Now another friend of mine has stated she WANTS her kiddos to tattle to her so she knows exactly what they are doing. It sounds smart, organized and on top of the game but so freaking exhausting. So comment away! What do you do about tattling and do I REALLY have to hear every squabble and fight?
Now another friend of mine has stated she WANTS her kiddos to tattle to her so she knows exactly what they are doing. It sounds smart, organized and on top of the game but so freaking exhausting. So comment away! What do you do about tattling and do I REALLY have to hear every squabble and fight?
this pic has nothing to do with tattling. I just thought it was cute!
A Razor for his birthday! Thank goodness Mimi remembered the helmet and pads. I really don't want to do plaster ever again. Plus they are starting to stare at me weird when we get x-rays now.
She has no idea what her brothers are planning for her in the future
3 comments:
Heeheehee, somebody's about to burst outa that Princess suit, there...LOL!
Tattling...Hm...we always use the "Is someone in REAL DANGER...? Or about to be in REAL DANGER? Or are you just saying that so (name) will get in trouble?"
I've found if you repeat that EACH AND EVERY SINGLE TIME they'll simmer down - perhaps they ask themselves the same question...or perhaps they just come to find out you won't do anything because most of the time no one is in *real danger*. Hahaha. One would hope they'll start to ask themselves that same question...
Oops - forgot the disclaimer.
Of course, you have to make a lot of effort not to be "neglectful" - do pay attention so you know if someone is just plain being mean, mistreating someone else, or whatever. Obviously, that should be addressed too.
You know, I don't have children old enough to tattle and in fact I don't even have enough children for tattling to take place at this point. However, I think that knowing about every squabble is completely unnecessary because come on, some of them are so trivial. I would want to know about ones that involved hurting of the other sib in some way or maybe something the sib did that would bring some kind of bad to him/her, ie. crossing the street if they've been told not to, talking to strange folks, etc.
But I really don't even want to know everytime my kid tears a page out of a book at the babysitter's or throws a play phone and so on. It's her job to deal with those things during the day. Now if he's really becoming disasterous to people or things, then yeah, tell me. But geez, maybe I'm just a little more permissive and laid back than some in this area.
There's a mother at Gymboree who always gives me go to hades looks now because Zach leaned into her little girl on the parachute one day. The girl is a year older than the other kids (she should not even be in this class) and she's WAY overly sensitive. I really don't need to know everytime Zach brushes her arm and makes her cry you know?
I suspect that's the kind of things you're talking about, if not, call me naive and ignore me hehe.
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